The courtship phase involves the early development of a romantic and intimate relationship.
In this phase, feelings may or may not escalate to a higher level. Therefore, it is still a “pass or fail” test for the parties involved.
Courtship is the “getting to know” period. It may be a private arrangement or public affair.
In either case, communication is crucial at this stage. And since it’s a “pass of fail” test, it is important for both parties to be clear about their intentions.
What Happens During the Courtship Phase
Courtship is divided in two stages. The first involves chasing the target; and the second is getting to know the target.
“Chasing the target” means entertaining the idea of pursuing that person. It could be initiated by gathering some information about them or getting leads.
There are also many ways to “get to know” the target. It could be by checking out their social media accounts and adding them to your own and seeing them in person by doing activities with them or hanging out more often.
Both stages go through the process of communication. And in this modern generation, digital methods of communication are the easiest way to launch the courtship phase.
We can all agree that this is the most challenging yet exciting part of creating a bond with another person.
This is when communication may be awkward but if compatibility, physical attraction and emotional connection exist, the entire phase can be unforgettable and flattering for both parties.
Communicating each other’s feelings is important in order to get into the next phase which is relationship.
If both parties are able to express themselves appropriately, a bond could develop and then romance would follow which starts with the honeymoon phase.
Factors that Affect the Courtship Phase
Whether courtship will escalate into a relationship or would go downhill depends on three factors which are compatibility, attraction and connection.
All of these can only develop through proper and effective communication. Let’s get into the details of each one.
Compatibility
The only way to find out if you’re compatible with that person you’re “chasing” and “getting to know” is by way of having fruitful conversations.
Find a common ground like your similarities and interests. Just the same, acknowledge your differences.
Knowing as much as you can about each other can help determine your compatibility and chances of having a romantic relationship.
Attraction
Attraction is not something that you can fake. As a relationship counselor, I believe in the natural chemistry that exists between two people.
In most cases, attraction comes effortlessly. It’s like a force of nature that tends to draw two people closer so they can take a chance on each other.
Attraction is when two people can look at each other and communicate with their eyes and body language. And even without saying a word, they get into a certain level of understanding.
Connection
Connection is built on common ground. During the courtship phase, a connection may develop after getting a good perspective about each other and after discovering each other’s personality.
Once a connection is established, taking things to the next level becomes feasible or in most cases, it just happens naturally.